Whether you believe yourself a success or a failure, either is meaningless. All that is true is that you are a child of God and therefore pure and Holy.
Stephanie Nead
Our Friends Sacred Counsel: Answering Your Questions
By Stephanie K. Nead
Hello Sweet Friends,
Recently three friends within a week mentioned that they would love to know more about me, and specifically that they were curious about my relationship with Our Friends, how this communion came about and what it means in my life. These three are all dear friends of mine. A lightbulb finally went on. I realized that, while I thought I was leaving all the needed space for Our Friends, I was actually kind of hiding. I’m a private person, but when three of my dearest friends feel like they don’t know such an essential part of my life, something’s off.
I’ve been getting all kinds of messages and support to “come out” more fully with what I most love and am most gifted at in my life. Our Friends are at the core of all this, whether it’s my communion and channeling with them, or my art, or my poetry, or my speaking, or my other writings, even my just being with those I love.
So in this video I am beginning what I hope will be a more in-depth sharing. Our Friends commented to me when I broached them about this prospect by saying “Everyone is interested in us, but they are curious about you.”
I will also be sharing Our Friends directly through video.
Please share your thoughts with me, and if you have questions that you’d like to see answered about the how and why of this communion, please post a comment on my blog at http://www.innerteacher.net, or comment on my YouTube site (Stephanie Nead: subscribing is a good idea, as then you’ll get any new videos immediately to your inbox) or drop me an email. I very much love hearing from you.
With deep blessing,
Love,
Stephanie
Raised on fear…shifting to joy….
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Through your body, you are feeling happy. Receive that happiness, revel in your own feeling of happiness. From within your body, allow yourself to be rooted and grounded in your body and in your happiness. You have a right to your happiness. You don’t even have to have a reason for it. You have a right to happiness, beloved, an absolute, inalienable right to happiness, in your body, in your Being. You don’t have to explain or defend it. It is your birthright to be joyful. You can be happy in your body; you can feel happiness flowing throughout your body and Being.
When you have been raised on fear, your first reaction is fear…even to happiness. If you are in your body, happy and celebratory, experience says someone is going to want something from you; someone is going to want you to physically and emotionally give yourself up to them; you are going to be obligated to move into pain and away from happiness. Your happiness is someone else’s permission. When you are happy you no longer have a “No.” You are supposed to say “Yes” to everything.
That is not happiness, beloved. That is unhealthy boundaries. That is coercion and manipulation. To make someone believe that if they are happy and expressive and joyful and dancing, in love with their body and Being, that if in their own joy they have “turned on” someone else, then they owe that person something, is profoundly unkind, even cruel. No. You never owe. If you have given joy by your own experience of joy, of happiness and pleasure flowing through your body, that is enough. That is wonderful. If in the course of enjoying yourself, another is given pleasure, what a blessing to them…and to you. You owe nothing. You don’t owe to continue that. You don’t owe to expand it.
Feel happiness and know you deserve to be happy because it is your birthright. It is your body’s right to feel joy, to feel sensual, to feel sexual, to feel grief, to feel any way you feel. It is your sovereignty; it is your Being. You are never therefore required anything.
For your body, it is important to always know that you have a “No.” You have every right to go back to being a teenager, and give yourself the right you had, but were not allowed then, the right to say “No.” The fact that others talked you out of it, threatened you out of it, cajoled you out of it, manipulated you out of it, hurt you with the violence of their thoughts, their voices, their words, their manipulations, that is not your fault. It never ended your right to set your own limits. It never ended your right to be curious, to say “Well, in this moment that sounds interesting or exciting or attractive,” and to go one inch into it and decide “No, I’ve changed my mind, don’t like it, don’t want to do that,” and say “No.” Or to go a foot into it “Hmmm, no, feels icky, changed my mind, No.” Or to go ten feet or a hundred feet or a mile into it, or all the way through it and say “I don’t want to do that again.” You always have the right to your “No.” Your body always has the right to her “No.” Always, always, always. And you have the right, from within that space of choice, to own in every cell of your body, and every fiber and energy of your Being, your “Yes,” your joy and happiness.
Surrounding your joy and happiness, as expansive and beautiful as it feels, is a sovereign fire, and it has its boundaries, just as a fire within a fire pit has boundaries. It burns passionately, brightly and hot within itself, but it has a boundary of self. And so do you. Even in Creation there is a boundary to energy where it meets another energy. Tis very different from humans and bodies, but not completely different. The idea of bodies came from something similar. And so, your ecstasy, your passion, your joy, your happiness, however high it might rise, however deep it might be, however far it might extend, it is always contained within you; it exists because of you; it is fueled by you, and always you are the sovereign Being to say “Yes” or to say “No” how you move it, when and where. You own it. It’s always coming from the fuel at the base of you, in your soul, in your Being, in your heart, in your passion, just like the logs that fuel the fire are at the base of the fire. It is you, and so you say where you shall burn, when, with and for whom. Always for yourself.
Allow yourself to be happy beloved, to experience happiness fully embodied, to let loose those armors that have kept you from feeling happiness out of fear. Because anytime you felt happiness, someone took it away from you as though you had no right, and they very often did it by invading you with negative opinions, with criticism, or with manipulation that you had to give up who you are, what you want, and your felt “Yes” in your body. You never, ever, ever give up the yes in your body, in your soul, in your heart, in your Being; it is the you of you; it is the very core of the essence of your Being; it is your “Yes.” You surround it with the right to say “No,” and in that way you create the space within which the yes can burn and burn and burn, and ever replenish.
For private 1-1 time with Stephanie & Our Friends, please email sknp4710@aol.com
All sessions are recorded and emailed to you.
Couple & Group sessions are also available.
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Judgement & Self-Love
When you judge another you are giving to them what you believe you would deserve in the same situation, in doing the same thing, and in that it is always yourself you attack, your self-perception, your own sense of personal failure or inadequacy or lack of worthiness. The degree to which a human being attacks another is an expression of that human being’s sense of unworthiness to be loved. And so, it is always a wise thing to try to remember and stop, not only for another, but for yourself. To say, I am love and I come from love, and in this moment the only thing real and the only thing that I can give is love to myself or to this other.
For private 1-1 time with Stephanie & Our Friends, please email sknp4710@aol.com
All sessions are recorded and emailed to you.
Couple & Group sessions are also available.
Stop by https://innerteacher.net/contact-and-session-information/
Is God Only Love? Pt 3
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Part 3
This post begins with the last line of Part 2 and continues from there…
Love is a living, moving Truth beyond any human ability to fully explain, understand or grasp in words. And so we use “creativity” and “Creation” to speak of God, because we feel it more accurately reflects, with language, a truer understanding, a truer connection; it allows you a more open conduit to experience what is true.
No human being is capable of fully receiving all of that quality of love so far beyond this creation without sort of burning up — in a kind of ecstasy, yes — yet burning up because it is so far beyond any conception, any words; it would wipe all that out. It would be like wiping a hard drive, because in a sense, in order to be human, in order to form these bodies and share this physical experience, this time and space creation, a sort of “hardware” and “software” had to be created and downloaded. Were you to meet that “Behind All Things” face to face, it would wipe the hard drive and erase the software, because It created the hardware and the software in order to experience this creation. It, the Creator, is so much vaster, deeper, more. You cannot download all the data off a huge computer onto a small one without blowing out the small one.
The reality is that something new is being created through this Creation. God is expressing God, always with love. And so, you are not mistaken in relying on God to be loving. You are never, ever mistaken in that, because that is what that One behind all things, within all things, expressing as all things, Is. You can always access that. You can always pray to that. You can always trust It.
For private 1-1 time with Stephanie & Our Friends, please email sknp4710@aol.com
All sessions are recorded and emailed to you.
Couple & Group sessions are also available.
Stop by https://innerteacher.net/contact-and-session-information/
Is God Only Love?
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Part I
When someone says that God (or Goddess or Spirit — whatever word is chosen) is not only love, that God is other things as well: anger, justice, etc. he is misunderstanding what love is in its pure form. And this is not his fault. It is the result of language and culture, using a human word that is applied in many contexts to name many different expressions, everything from kindness and affection or strong like, to passionate human sexual love, to joy and connection between a human and an animal, to the deepest and most profound communion of souls between any two Beings, with the Universe, or with all Creation.
Thus, all of the filters that go into the word “love” are projected onto the imagined God. Throughout all your world, God is always only imagined. While you touch It/God, your human mind cannot encompass It. It’s not that you do not experience God in that touch; it’s that your human mind cannot fully grasp or retain that experience. You retain it in your soul; you retain it as a beacon; you retain it as a felt-sense memory. But it is so very far beyond words that stories, poetry, art, music, dance are all you have to try to describe it: images, metaphor, motion these things make you feel the “Yes!” The “Yes!” is Love in its one true form.
For private 1-1 time with Stephanie & Our Friends, please email sknp4710@aol.com
All sessions are recorded and emailed to you.
Couple & Group sessions are also available.
Stop by https://innerteacher.net/contact-and-session-information/
Q & A with Stephanie about Our Friends
The closer we look, the more beauty we see.
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This Sunday, November 10, 2013 at 4:00p.m PST will be Circle with Our Friends. Please see the end of this post for details.
Q & A with Stephanie about Our Friends (from a phone conversation)
How do Our Friends answer medical questions?
It varies from person to person.
It’s interesting to me, because when we started in 1989, I was incredibly uncomfortable with the idea of people asking any medical questions. We agreed they would always tell people “talk to your Doctor.” I didn’t want responsibility. I didn’t want people to listen to them and then not talk to their doctor. But what’s interesting to me, what’s impressed me over the years and has given me much more confidence in what they tell people, is they have a very clear delineation in the information they share. Sometimes they’ll say “Here’s what we see. If you’re still concerned, go to your Doctor and ask for the test.” Sometimes they’ll add “But we don’t see anything. It doesn’t look to us like there’s anything there. But if you’re concerned, go have it checked out, because the anxiety alone is not good for you.” At other times, they’ll say to people “Well, we’re not sure, but we see this. We don’t think it’s anything serious, but you might want to go have it checked.” And then there are other times when they say “You need to go to your Doctor and ask for this test and you need to do it now.” In every single one of these cases, there has been something seriously wrong and Our Friends nailed it.
One man came for a session with a primary medical question. I remember the image as Our Friends “read” his body. They looked at him and it was like they were using x-ray vision. They said to him “The woman doesn’t have medical knowledge,” which is true, I don’t, “so the best way we can describe what we’re seeing based on what is in her mind is to use the word ‘osteoporosis.’ Your bones look like Swiss cheese.” Our Friends said “You need to go to your Doctor and you need to ask for an X-ray right now.” He didn’t do it, because he thought “I’m 51 years old and I’m a man, and I couldn’t have osteoporosis.” Well, he had multiple myeloma. It was eating his bones. It leaches calcium out of the bones and so it causes osteoporosis.
With another person, whose sister was ill, the Doctors knew she had cancer, but they couldn’t figure out what kind. She talked to Our Friends and they said “The problem is that she has two or three different kinds of cancer, and they are interweaving. The doctors may never know precisely what’s what.” About a week and a half later this woman called me and said “Oh my God, we just got these reports from the Doctor and they’re saying that my sister has probably two or three different kinds of cancer and they don’t know if they’ll ever know.” It was exactly what Our Friends had told her.
So the evolution in Our Friends medical readings has been in you rather than them? How do they choose whether to focus on the physical or the emotional aspects of illness?
It’s been my ability to just let them say what they say, and over time they say things and they turn out to be right. I have learned to trust them.
Sometimes, with some people, they do focus more on the emotional aspect of illness. It varies for the person, depending on what they’re dealing with. I have a handful of clients who have been dealing with long illnesses over several years. Our Friends have helped them make some choices around their medical care, but also tried to work with them around the emotional aspects of it. Whether that’s emotional aspects that relate to the illness itself or in the case of a couple of people who were reaching the end of their life with their illness, trying to help them to deal with the emotional aspects of when and how do you let go, how do you make peace with that, how do you not judge and blame yourself. There’s just so much. They work with people in a lot of different ways and levels. It depends on the person and the situation, what’s happening, and what they read in the person’s energy and emotions.
How do they do it? Never having had a body, how do they know what’s going on with us and give such good guidance?
I have no idea how they do it either.
There have definitely been times when I’ve gotten mad at them, times when they were working with me on something and I’ve said “Well, you get down here and get a body, and then you talk to me about this!” Yet still, even at these times, their guidance was exactly what I needed. I was not ready to fully integrate it without resistance.
On the other hand, they have given me some absolutely incredible experiences of my body. They’ve come in, then brought me in with them, sharing the body-mind fully, and given me the ability to see, really, really see, not just an Auric field around plants and things, but to see that the physical body is actually an energy body…actually see that.
Sitting with a man I was in love with and doing a session for him. We had a very strong physical connection. We were in the yard, sitting in the sun and fresh breezes. When Our Friends came in, my body surprised them this time. They don’t have any of my history, my personal history, so when they came in and felt this aspect of physicality so fully, their reaction was something like “Whoa!!!” I was very aware of them suddenly really getting it “Oh! This is what being a woman is! And that’s what being a man is!” The incredible charge going back and forth between my body and his was for them a new experience. “Whoa! This is what this is like!” And the part of me that was aware was also amazed, “Oh my God! I haven’t even felt it like that!” And the thing was, my partner got it. When I came back, he said “Oh my God! I was almost feeling like I was cheating on you. The charge was so incredible! I was feeling like I wanted to ask her out!” So it is an amazing, amazing thing. I never know what I’m going to experience and learn.
How do Our Friends choose to begin a session? Is it always the same?
How a session begins depends on the person and the question. I never know. Sometimes they come in and just start talking. They can do that with someone they’ve never talked to before. I know they’re always aware when someone makes a session; I feel like usually they’ve arranged it. I feel like they are saying “This one, that one.” I’ve always said to them “You bring the people. You know who would be best for you to work with. I don’t choose. You choose.” Yet when I make an appointment time with someone, I always have the thought in my head of “OK Our Friends, please be sure you connect with this person.”
I’ve always, from the beginning, had people say to me, either, “I never opened my mouth beyond hello. They just started talking and when they finished, they’d answered most of my questions.” Or, “I asked my first question and 25 minutes later, when they stopped talking, they’d answered all the questions I had.” Other times, they come in and feel the person, feel the energy, but they either need for the person to get more comfortable so they ask them to talk a little, or they’re not sure what is the best way to talk about something. They need to discern what the person is conscious of, not conscious of, and so they’ll ask a person to ask questions, because it’s revealing the way a person asks a question and how they say what they say. Generally, their energy opens in that process, and it seems to help Our Friends recognize “Oh, OK, we need to go through this door rather than that door.”
It seems like you would learn a lot by being a channel?
It’s funny because I don’t remember the personal information of each person and what is shared for them. I choose not to remember for two reasons: I don’t want to carry around that much knowledge of other people’s inner workings (I don’t think it’s any of my business,) and it allows you to know that you are having a confidential session with Our Friends. I believe this allows people to be more open in their energy with Our Friends, and I know the more open a person’s energy, the more fully and deeply Our Friends can help, the more thorough the information they can give. You can only receive what you are open to, so how open you are makes a big difference. Our Friends honor, always, the sovereignty of each of us; this is energetic more than intellectual. People can believe themselves open to information, but if that is only an intellectual openness, not backed up by an energetic and emotional openness, Our Friends will not violate the big “No!” from the energetic/emotional self. There are times when people are not even aware of this “No” and will argue if Our Friends address it with them. How little we know ourselves at times.
Unless someone has had a lot of sessions with me, or if they go a long time between sessions – like a year or two or three – they’ll call me and I’ll think “Have I done a session for this person?” They’ll say “Oh, yes, we’ve done two or three.” For me it’s like “Oh, ok!”
I don’t remember that, but I do remember what I learn for myself. I remember the feeling of the energy. I remember if Our Friends travel to go find a loved one, living or dead, when asked. Images, felt senses, how Our Friends work with people, this I remember. It’s very interesting. Pretty cool. I wish I understood. I always say to people “If you ever meet someone who says they’re a channel and they claim to understand how they’re doing what they’re doing, don’t trust them. “ If they say they know how it works and what’s happening, no. They’re a fake. We don’t know. I know certain things. I’ve learned that who I am matters. I’ve learned that the quality of my heart matters, that how I honor Our Friends matters. I’ve learned that when I come to choices in my life, even some of the really hard choices, my core question has to be “What keeps me in alignment with Our Friends? What keeps me open to their energy and deepens our communion?“ That’s always my choice. It’s really very clear to me; I can always feel it. I don’t always understand it, but I can always feel it very clearly. I know all this matters, but the actual “How” of how it happens or where they come from or what they are, Whoa! You got me! It’s a mystery.
Who are Our Friends?
Some people have asked “Are you Stephanie’s Higher Self?” And Our Friends have said “No, not in any way you would understand that.” But they have said that the essential vibration of my Essence is of the same quality as theirs. They’ve talked about how there are different vibrations of different souls, and that the vibration of my soul is of a like vibration to theirs. And that’s why it’s easy for them to come through me.
One or two people have asked “Could you come through someone else?” Our Friends answer has been “We could, but you wouldn’t recognize us as the same energy, because the vehicle we come through is resonant with how you experience our energy.” And that would be me. They said “You might not recognize us.”
I’m happy to explain it a bit. It’s hard to know where to start in sharing my history with Our Friends, my experiences with them, all I have learned from them.
This Sunday, November 10, 2013 at 4:00p.m PST will be Circle with Our Friends. Anyone is welcome on this call. Please feel free to forward this email to others, whether or not they already know Our Friends.
The call will run approximately an hour and a half and will start promptly at 4:00. You can come on the call as early as you wish. The line will be available. I will check in to see who is new to Our Friends, do a short introduction of myself and Our Friends then bring Our Friends in for the bulk of the call. They will offer a short talk and then the call will open to questions & answers. I will be recording the call. If you would like to receive a copy of the recording, send me an email after the call at sknp4710@aol.com.
A suggested donation for the call is $25-$50. I am happy to receive PayPal. You can do so by logging in using my sknp4710@aol.com email. Or, my snail mail is Stephanie Nead, POB 923, Talent, OR 97540.
The call-in number for Our Friends’ Circle is 218-632-0244. You will be asked for an access code. It is 363636#.
I am also available to provide private Our Friends’ Circle sessions for you and friends (generally $20/person for a 90 minute call-session with a $100 minimum,) as well as individual and couple sessions (generally $125/$175 for a 60-75 minute call-session.) Please contact me to make arrangements. Email or phone is welcome. 541-292-9390.
I hope to meet you on the call this Sunday at 4:00p.m. PST
Love, Stephanie
Life with Death Audio Review
I have gotten a handful of emails from people who are having trouble hearing the audio file. Below is from an email with one woman. I hope this will help others. Technology can be tricky. The audio file itself is perfectlyclear, so consider the possibilites below. It’s the learning curve of audio technology online.
And here is the link again: Our_Friends_on_Life_with_Death_July_14_2013
Yes, it depends on the computer and program being used for listening. The program your computer opens the file in depends on what program you have set as your default for that type of file. iTunes may not be the best for playing this file. On Windows Media Player and on Epress Scribe it comes through loud and clear. Also, do you have speakers or just an internal speaker? I hear it beautifully just on internal speakers, but that’s not true of all recordings I download. Different recordings play differently on different computers and with different programs. Plugging in with earphones often helps. Worth a try. And external speakers can also make a difference. And the program you play through, that you are using to open the file. You can hand select a different program on your computer, or download another. There are many, and most are free. I have had good experiences with Real Player as well as Windows Media Player. Another possibility is the age of a person’s computer and their download speed. It’s possible that if the download speed is too slow, the data is corrupted in the transfer and thus will not play well on that computer.
So many possibilities. Thanks for letting me know. The recording itself is perfect. I have listened to the original, listened to it on my computer, and listened through someone else’s computer…someone who had never accessed my site, so I know it plays beautifully from the site too.
New Audio post
Hello Friends,
One of my friends here let me know that yesterday’s recording was difficult to hear. I have replaced it with a WAV format version of the same recording. (scroll down to original post) WAV is a higher quality recording, and I hope this will make the difference. Please let me know. I am sorry if any of you were not able to hear it yesterday.
The recording itself is clear and crisp. I’ve listened to it on multiple players. If this WAV format doesn’t work, please let me know. I’ll get some tech support from WordPress.
Thanks so much! It’s lovely share with you, and I always love hearing from you!
With love,Stephanie
Walking Death Within Life: Our Earth Journey
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Click on the WAV audio link directly above to hear “Our Friends on Life with Death.”
As a full moon reflects unseen light…so death reveals life…
Death within Life
…an excerpt…
“We will speak of what it is that you experience as death. What it is to live with that experience. What it is to have that as part of the creation within which you reside. There is so much fear around it, so much questioning, so many beliefs. But to be and to breathe in the walk that is a life with death is a very beautiful walk. It is a liminal space. It is a space of great aliveness.”
Our Friends: Sacred Counsel 