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This Sunday, November 10, 2013 at 4:00p.m PST will be Circle with Our Friends. Please see the end of this post for details.

Q & A with Stephanie about Our Friends (from a phone conversation)

How do Our Friends answer medical questions?

It varies from person to person.

It’s interesting to me, because when we started in 1989, I was incredibly uncomfortable with the idea of people asking any medical questions. We agreed they would always tell people “talk to your Doctor.” I didn’t want responsibility. I didn’t want people to listen to them and then not talk to their doctor. But what’s interesting to me, what’s impressed me over the years and has given me much more confidence in what they tell people, is they have a very clear delineation in the information they share. Sometimes they’ll say “Here’s what we see. If you’re still concerned, go to your Doctor and ask for the test.” Sometimes they’ll add “But we don’t see anything. It doesn’t look to us like there’s anything there. But if you’re concerned, go have it checked out, because the anxiety alone is not good for you.” At other times, they’ll say to people “Well, we’re not sure, but we see this. We don’t think it’s anything serious, but you might want to go have it checked.” And then there are other times when they say “You need to go to your Doctor and ask for this test and you need to do it now.” In every single one of these cases, there has been something seriously wrong and Our Friends nailed it.

One man came for a session with a primary medical question. I remember the image as Our Friends “read” his body. They looked at him and it was like they were using x-ray vision. They said to him “The woman doesn’t have medical knowledge,” which is true, I don’t, “so the best way we can describe what we’re seeing based on what is in her mind is to use the word ‘osteoporosis.’ Your bones look like Swiss cheese.” Our Friends said “You need to go to your Doctor and you need to ask for an X-ray right now.” He didn’t do it, because he thought “I’m 51 years old and I’m a man, and I couldn’t have osteoporosis.” Well, he had multiple myeloma. It was eating his bones. It leaches calcium out of the bones and so it causes osteoporosis.

With another person, whose sister was ill, the Doctors knew she had cancer, but they couldn’t figure out what kind. She talked to Our Friends and they said “The problem is that she has two or three different kinds of cancer, and they are interweaving. The doctors may never know precisely what’s what.” About a week and a half later this woman called me and said “Oh my God, we just got these reports from the Doctor and they’re saying that my sister has probably two or three different kinds of cancer and they don’t know if they’ll ever know.” It was exactly what Our Friends had told her.

So the evolution in Our Friends medical readings has been in you rather than them? How do they choose whether to focus on the physical or the emotional aspects of illness?

It’s been my ability to just let them say what they say, and over time they say things and they turn out to be right. I have learned to trust them.

Sometimes, with some people, they do focus more on the emotional aspect of illness. It varies for the person, depending on what they’re dealing with. I have a handful of clients who have been dealing with long illnesses over several years. Our Friends have helped them make some choices around their medical care, but also tried to work with them around the emotional aspects of it. Whether that’s emotional aspects that relate to the illness itself or in the case of a couple of people who were reaching the end of their life with their illness, trying to help them to deal with the emotional aspects of when and how do you let go, how do you make peace with that, how do you not judge and blame yourself. There’s just so much. They work with people in a lot of different ways and levels. It depends on the person and the situation, what’s happening, and what they read in the person’s energy and emotions.

How do they do it? Never having had a body, how do they know what’s going on with us and give such good guidance?

I have no idea how they do it either.

There have definitely been times when I’ve gotten mad at them, times when they were working with me on something and I’ve said “Well, you get down here and get a body, and then you talk to me about this!” Yet still, even at these times, their guidance was exactly what I needed. I was not ready to fully integrate it without resistance.

On the other hand, they have given me some absolutely incredible experiences of my body. They’ve come in, then brought me in with them, sharing the body-mind fully, and given me the ability to see, really, really see, not just an Auric field around plants and things, but to see that the physical body is actually an energy body…actually see that.

Sitting with a man I was in love with and doing a session for him. We had a very strong physical connection. We were in the yard, sitting in the sun and fresh breezes. When Our Friends came in, my body surprised them this time. They don’t have any of my history, my personal history, so when they came in and felt this aspect of physicality so fully, their reaction was something like “Whoa!!!” I was very aware of them suddenly really getting it “Oh! This is what being a woman is! And that’s what being a man is!” The incredible charge going back and forth between my body and his was for them a new experience. “Whoa! This is what this is like!” And the part of me that was aware was also amazed, “Oh my God! I haven’t even felt it like that!” And the thing was, my partner got it. When I came back, he said “Oh my God! I was almost feeling like I was cheating on you. The charge was so incredible! I was feeling like I wanted to ask her out!” So it is an amazing, amazing thing. I never know what I’m going to experience and learn.

How do Our Friends choose to begin a session? Is it always the same?

How a session begins depends on the person and the question. I never know. Sometimes they come in and just start talking. They can do that with someone they’ve never talked to before. I know they’re always aware when someone makes a session; I feel like usually they’ve arranged it. I feel like they are saying “This one, that one.” I’ve always said to them “You bring the people. You know who would be best for you to work with. I don’t choose. You choose.” Yet when I make an appointment time with someone, I always have the thought in my head of “OK Our Friends, please be sure you connect with this person.”

I’ve always, from the beginning, had people say to me, either, “I never opened my mouth beyond hello. They just started talking and when they finished, they’d answered most of my questions.” Or, “I asked my first question and 25 minutes later, when they stopped talking, they’d answered all the questions I had.” Other times, they come in and feel the person, feel the energy, but they either need for the person to get more comfortable so they ask them to talk a little, or they’re not sure what is the best way to talk about something. They need to discern what the person is conscious of, not conscious of, and so they’ll ask a person to ask questions, because it’s revealing the way a person asks a question and how they say what they say. Generally, their energy opens in that process, and it seems to help Our Friends recognize “Oh, OK, we need to go through this door rather than that door.”

It seems like you would learn a lot by being a channel?

It’s funny because I don’t remember the personal information of each person and what is shared for them. I choose not to remember for two reasons: I don’t want to carry around that much knowledge of other people’s inner workings (I don’t think it’s any of my business,) and it allows you to know that you are having a confidential session with Our Friends. I believe this allows people to be more open in their energy with Our Friends, and I know the more open a person’s energy, the more fully and deeply Our Friends can help, the more thorough the information they can give. You can only receive what you are open to, so how open you are makes a big difference. Our Friends honor, always, the sovereignty of each of us; this is energetic more than intellectual. People can believe themselves open to information, but if that is only an intellectual openness, not backed up by an energetic and emotional openness, Our Friends will not violate the big “No!” from the energetic/emotional self. There are times when people are not even aware of this “No” and will argue if Our Friends address it with them. How little we know ourselves at times.

Unless someone has had a lot of sessions with me, or if they go a long time between sessions – like a year or two or three – they’ll call me and I’ll think “Have I done a session for this person?” They’ll say “Oh, yes, we’ve done two or three.” For me it’s like “Oh, ok!”

I don’t remember that, but I do remember what I learn for myself. I remember the feeling of the energy. I remember if Our Friends travel to go find a loved one, living or dead, when asked. Images, felt senses, how Our Friends work with people, this I remember. It’s very interesting. Pretty cool. I wish I understood. I always say to people “If you ever meet someone who says they’re a channel and they claim to understand how they’re doing what they’re doing, don’t trust them. “ If they say they know how it works and what’s happening, no. They’re a fake. We don’t know. I know certain things. I’ve learned that who I am matters. I’ve learned that the quality of my heart matters, that how I honor Our Friends matters. I’ve learned that when I come to choices in my life, even some of the really hard choices, my core question has to be “What keeps me in alignment with Our Friends? What keeps me open to their energy and deepens our communion?“ That’s always my choice. It’s really very clear to me; I can always feel it. I don’t always understand it, but I can always feel it very clearly. I know all this matters, but the actual “How” of how it happens or where they come from or what they are, Whoa! You got me! It’s a mystery.

Who are Our Friends?

Some people have asked “Are you Stephanie’s Higher Self?” And Our Friends have said “No, not in any way you would understand that.” But they have said that the essential vibration of my Essence is of the same quality as theirs. They’ve talked about how there are different vibrations of different souls, and that the vibration of my soul is of a like vibration to theirs. And that’s why it’s easy for them to come through me.

One or two people have asked “Could you come through someone else?” Our Friends answer has been “We could, but you wouldn’t recognize us as the same energy, because the vehicle we come through is resonant with how you experience our energy.” And that would be me. They said “You might not recognize us.”

I’m happy to explain it a bit. It’s hard to know where to start in sharing my history with Our Friends, my experiences with them, all I have learned from them.

This Sunday, November 10, 2013 at 4:00p.m PST will be Circle with Our Friends.  Anyone is welcome on this call.  Please feel free to forward this email to others, whether or not they already know Our Friends. 

The call will run approximately an hour and a half and will start promptly at 4:00.  You can come on the call as early as you wish.  The line will be available.  I will check in to see who is new to Our Friends, do a short introduction of myself and Our Friends then bring Our Friends in for the bulk of the call.  They will offer a short talk and then the call will open to questions & answers.   I will be recording the call.  If you would like to receive a copy of the recording, send me an email after the call at sknp4710@aol.com. 

A suggested donation for the call is $25-$50.  I am happy to receive PayPal.  You can do so by logging in using my sknp4710@aol.com email.   Or, my snail mail is Stephanie Nead, POB 923, Talent, OR  97540. 

 The call-in number for Our Friends’ Circle is 218-632-0244.  You will be asked for an access code.  It is 363636#.

I am also available to provide private Our Friends’ Circle sessions for you and friends (generally $20/person for a 90 minute call-session with a $100 minimum,) as well as individual and couple sessions (generally $125/$175 for a 60-75 minute call-session.)  Please contact me to make arrangements.  Email or phone is welcome.  541-292-9390. 

I hope to meet you on the call this Sunday at 4:00p.m. PST                

Love, Stephanie