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Through your body, you are feeling happy.  Receive that happiness, revel in your own feeling of happiness.  From within your body, allow yourself to be rooted and grounded in your body and in your happiness.  You have a right to your happiness.  You don’t even have to have a reason  for it.  You have a right to happiness, beloved, an absolute, inalienable right to happiness, in your body, in your Being.  You don’t have to explain or defend it.  It is your birthright to be joyful.  You can be happy in your body; you can feel happiness flowing throughout your body and Being.  

When you have been raised on fear, your first reaction is fear…even to happiness.  If you are in your body, happy and celebratory, experience says someone is going to want something from you; someone is going to want you to physically and emotionally give yourself up to them; you are going to be obligated to move into pain and away from happiness.  Your happiness is someone else’s permission.  When you are happy you no longer have a “No.”  You are supposed to say “Yes” to everything.  

That is not happiness, beloved.  That is unhealthy boundaries.  That is coercion and manipulation.  To make someone believe that if they are happy and expressive and joyful and dancing, in love with their body and Being, that if in their own joy they have “turned on” someone else, then they owe that person something, is profoundly unkind, even cruel.  No.  You never owe.  If you have given joy by your own experience of joy, of happiness and pleasure flowing through your body, that is enough.  That is wonderful.  If in the course of enjoying yourself, another is given pleasure, what a blessing to them…and to you.  You owe nothing.  You don’t owe to continue that.  You don’t owe to expand it.  

Feel happiness and know you deserve to be happy because it is your birthright.  It is your body’s right to feel joy, to feel sensual, to feel sexual, to feel grief, to feel any way you feel.  It is your sovereignty; it is your Being.  You are never therefore required anything.  

For your body, it is important to always know that you have a “No.”  You have every right to go back to being a teenager, and give yourself the right you had, but were not allowed then, the right to say “No.” The fact that others talked you out of it, threatened you out of it, cajoled you out of it, manipulated you out of it, hurt you with the violence of their thoughts, their voices, their words, their manipulations, that is not your fault.  It never ended your right to set your own limits.  It never ended your right to be curious, to say “Well, in this moment that sounds interesting or exciting or attractive,” and to go one inch into it and decide “No, I’ve changed my mind, don’t like it, don’t want to do that,” and say “No.”  Or to go a foot into it “Hmmm, no, feels icky, changed my mind, No.”  Or to go ten feet or a hundred feet or a mile into it, or all the way through it and say “I don’t want to do that again.”  You always have the right to your “No.”   Your body always has the right to her “No.”  Always, always, always. And you have the right, from within that space of choice, to own in every cell of your body, and every fiber and energy of your Being, your “Yes,” your joy and happiness.  

Surrounding your joy and happiness, as expansive and beautiful as it feels, is a sovereign fire, and it has its boundaries, just as a fire within a fire pit has boundaries.  It burns passionately, brightly and hot within itself, but it has a boundary of self.  And so do you.  Even in Creation there is a boundary to energy where it meets another energy.  Tis very different from humans and bodies, but not completely different.  The idea of bodies came from something similar.  And so, your ecstasy, your passion, your joy, your happiness, however high it might rise, however deep it might be, however far it might extend, it is always contained within you; it exists because of you; it is fueled by you, and always you are the sovereign Being to say “Yes” or to say “No”  how you move it, when and where.  You own it.  It’s always coming from the fuel at the base of you, in your soul, in your Being, in your heart, in your passion, just like the logs that fuel the fire are at the base of the fire.  It is you, and so you say where you shall burn, when, with and for whom.  Always for yourself.  

Allow yourself to be happy beloved, to experience happiness fully embodied, to let loose those armors that have kept you from feeling happiness out of fear.  Because anytime you felt happiness, someone took it away from you as though you had no right, and they very often did it by invading you with negative opinions, with criticism, or with manipulation that you had to give up who you are, what you want, and your felt “Yes” in your body.  You never, ever, ever give up the yes in your body, in your soul, in your heart, in your Being; it is the you of you; it is the very core of the essence of your Being; it is your “Yes.”  You surround it with the right to say “No,” and in that way you create the space within which the yes can burn and burn and burn, and ever replenish. 

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